Optionate to Increase Natural Energy

You read it right, optionate. It haven't spelt it incorrectly, I just manufactured another word. It is just my way of quickening the way I explain to people, you need to think options if you want to create a natural energy flow that influences long lasting positive changes. Even more so if you are a person of influence or want to be and would like to influence outcomes positively.

Let me illustrate my point by highlighting something I witnessed today. It is so common that we all would of heard something similar if not on a daily basis very regularly. I took my three children to a fast food outlet and let them play on the playground on their premises. For the record I took fruit and water for the kids and I bought a coffee just to satisfy the staff that we were paying customers.

There was another family there who were there to have lunch. I heard the following instructions being delivered to a young girl who would of been no older than 5 or 6 years old. The father or grandfather ordered her to stop blowing bubbles in her drink as it was splashing everywhere. Fine in theory but think of it from the little girls position. She was happy and enjoying herself and the instruction stopped the fun. To get a win win scenario for all parties involved would of been to approach it as follows. Mary (made up name) if you want to blow bubbles in your drink that's fine but I will be forced to take the drink off you because you are wasting the drink and are making a mess with something you are supposed to be drinking. Or you can stop blowing bubbles and I won't take the drink of you. It's your choice, which one would you prefer.

So the onus is back on the little girl to make a decision for herself that stops her blowing bubbles either way, so the father wins and she will not want to lose her drink so she would take the second option. So she perceives a win out of the situation also. Then there is no dummy spitting and tantrums thrown or worse still resentment towards the father for restricting her enjoyment.

Point being that any decision you take doesn't have to be restrictive. Such as cutting out certain foods completely because you want to lose weight or cutting calories ridiculously. Optionating the process so you are nudging yourself towards making the choice in order to achieve a desired outcome is far better than restricting yourself from doing something to achieve an outcome. More reasons why restrictive actions are not the best option to create natural energy flows. By taking an option that really empowers you to take action rather than restrict practices creates a force far greater and motivating than any action taken out of perceived necessity. Clear as mud?