Are you sending mixed messages?

I recently took a train ride with my youngest daughter and my son to Fremantle, a harbour side suburb in Perth. This isn't rare for us as the kids love the train and any outdoor excursions we take them on. What happened on the train reinforced something I am becoming more and more aware of. It is the perception others get from your body language and the way you conduct yourself in the public arena.


The instance that captured my attention was on the way home in the afternoon when the train was picking up passengers on the way back to Perth. Things became a little crowded but nothing too dramatic and one young fella hopped on and made an impression immediately. His phone was radiating offensive music and he was draped in an Aussie flag from the waist down. Hair cut extremely short but had a little rats tail at the back of his head, wore a shearers type tank top and track suit pants and would of been all of 19 or 20 years old. Immediately he started looking at people with intent if they touched him or got to close to him. He wasn't aggressive or rude but the perception was, this kid's trouble. Purely from the visual signals and the body language and also hearing his choice of music. But I have no idea if he was a bad kid or not. Yet I began to form an impression based on what I saw, heard and perceived.



My point being this kid was going to attract a certain type of person, action or behaviour into his life. We all do, but his actions, body language and other cues put out the signal to start attracting negativity of some sort. It wasn't anyone on the train but later on it may have been.

Are you aware of what you are attracting into your life? Do your actions and your behaviours match the sort of life you want to be living. For example are you hoping to be trim, taught and terrific in a bid to stay healthy and maybe attract friends with similar interests. But on reflection you are possibly eating the wrong kind of foods to stay healthy and thinking extremely negatively about your body image which may be manifesting your current state of poor health and negative body image. Hence are you having difficulty attracting the kind of friends you want into your life.

Pretty deep huh but worth thinking about. Just begin to exercise the self awareness muscles you already possess by writing down a few thoughts you have every day. By introducing this action into your daily routine you can start to become aware of how you are talking to yourself. If you find your self dialogue is destructive may pay you to address it. Your choice.